If you struggle to achieve an orgasm and can’t pinpoint why

D I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition

(In addition to, you know, your hand.) It seems like they would the natural addition to your sex life. As most vibrators are app-controlled, it’s easy to give your partner the ability to control them remotely—an excellent way to add new thrills to any long-distance relationship. As Carol Queen, sex educator and staff at Good Vibrations says, panty vibes can also be a smart assistive device for anyone who doesn’t have great hand strength or motor control. Nicely, panty vibrators work as external vibrators sans underwear, too, with various vibration patterns and strengths. The best panty vibrators (and vibrating panties) slide inside underwear or are built-in, making for delicious, hands-free partner play.

It’s not likely that one particular pattern will blow your mind more than the others, but some women may find that they have decently strong preferences. If you feel a little baffled about all the options, just stick with the constant vibration pattern. Smile Makers The Firefighter Intense Clitoral Vibrator is a uniquely-shaped clitoral vibrator extending the vibration to the labia for a broader stimulation.

If you’re well-versed in sex toys, you know that a wand vibrator is a must-have for your pleasure tool kit—and if you’re newer to the sex-essories scene, these microphone-shaped devices are a superb place to start. In 2024, there’s no shortage of sex toys to choose from, but the pleasure brought on by the best wand vibrators is second to none. You probably already know and love the Magic Wand vibrator marketed as a “personal massager” (yeah, right) way back in 1968. It’s since become the little black dress , if you will, of sex toy stashes, but there’s more to the genre than ‘ol faithful. The web is bursting with all sorts of fresh takes on the vibrating wand for your playing pleasure, like toys with up to 20 pulsation modes, two-sided designs, and app-controlled, titillating tech.

It’s got a long shaft that works well for deep penetration, featuring some mild ridges that stroke the front vaginal wall on each thrust. With six vibration speeds and four patterns to choose from, which get decently powerful at the higher end, this is a surprisingly good rabbit vibrator for the price. Rabbit vibes have been around since the ’80s, and while sex toy tech has evolved a lot since then, some classics are classic for a reason. This is a modernized spin on old-school rabbits, including the one featured prominently in that notorious Sex & the City episode where Charlotte gets addicted to her vibrator.

We’re all for lending your hand a hand, so let’s explore the realm of strokers and masturbators. This rabbit vibrator thrusts and vibrates, offering clit and G-spot stimulation simultaneously. While the product description and reviews don’t say whether it’s quiet viberators, it is waterproof so you can muffle out any sounds with running water…and moans.

You may want to do some research to pick a vibrator that will satisfy your needs, although many vibrators have a variety of possible uses and vibration strength settings. The Ruby Glow Massager contours to your body—one side has raised ridges that you can grind your vulva against, while the other features a smooth nub that targets your perineum. Each side has its own motor, so “you can either rock back and forth along the toy, or simply sit down on it and let the vibrations do all the leg work,” Finn tells SELF. The Ballerina stays easy to maneuver in any position and can even rest between two bodies without you holding it there. It has 12 different settings, two simple buttons, and is quiet (even at its strongest). I try to keep things simple and stick with vibrators that are USB rechargeable either with USB-A or USB-C.

Jess also hosts CityTV’s Intimately You, PlayboyTV’s hit reality series Swing, and her weekly @SexWithDrJess podcast alongside her husband, Brandon. If you struggle to achieve an orgasm and can’t pinpoint why, the Lioness Vibrator 2.0 was designed for you. If you’d prefer a more compact wand, or one that’s battery operated, try the Vibratex Mystic Wand Vibrator ($80). It’s made by the same company as the Magic Wand, but is much smaller and easier to travel with. You can’t talk about the best vibrator without talking about the Magic Wand. This classic vibrator has been around for decades and is still one of the best selling toys on the market.

Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship, a camgirl, or just a fan of public play, it can be hard to come up with new ways to keep things hot at a distance.